Research reveals that women who are candid with men about what they want also attract men with similar goals and values. Of course that doesn’t mean bringing up marriage on a first date, but it does mean being honest with someone about what you want in life. So if he—or, more rarely, you—is mostly looking for a casual hookup or a purely physical relationship, that’s fine as long as everyone is upfront about it. Do you have your friends’ support?
Finding love after loss: Stitch members Jeff and Leona discover it’s possible after 50
John Doe……I am truly sorry for what you and so many other good men are up against. Times really have changed, haven’t they? I don’t understand coffeemeetsbagel these many self-centered women that you speak of. I can’t imagine being so selfish and demanding because I was never like that with anyone.
Are you frustrated with dating?
It has been shown that the compatibility questions on these sites have nothing to do with the success rate of dating. Women only reply if they are attracted to your photo or wealth. So no way men in their 50’s have an easier time dating unless you look like the Marlboro man. On our first ‘date’ we went to an Improv comedy club. She is a semi retired nurse and had a shift that started at 8 the next morning. I loved her ‘completely’ when she agreed to go dancing until 2 AM at a Blues club.
Left to my own devices I am having terrible luck. And the kicker is, I value a man for who he is, not for what he owns or has in the bank. I think it is just hard at this age to find someone, when most people have become selfish, self centered, or are too damaged to care. Well the purple unicorn is right here…but damned if I can find a decent guy. Every time I think I find a good one he either disappears without a word, let’s his personal baggage get in the way, or doesn’t know what he really wants.
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Some who have identified as heterosexual their whole life are trying out same-sex relationships that they previously thought of as off-limits. Karen, a 69-year-old in New York City who asked to be identified by only her first name to protect her privacy, told me that sex is great at her age. She finds that men are more aware of women’s desires; if they can’t sustain erections, they’re more thoughtful and creative, and they compensate—often with oral sex. “They’re very willing to do whatever it takes,” she said.
It seems that this is still the way forward for me. If you’re dating an older man, you don’t have to worry about what he’ll look like when he gets older. “You already get to see a preview of how the person ages and takes care of himself,” Carmichael says. At this point in his life, he probably has his lifestyle down pat. If he looks and feels good and takes care of himself now, it could be a good sign of how he’ll take care of his health, body and mind later on.
Ive read many stories where women have selected their partners solely based on income rather than attraction. I’d like to get a new relationship, but all of the posts above talk about men who have a good job and are healthy. I can’t keep a job now because if I’m put under stress for any length of time I’m bedridden for weeks until I recover. If I keep the stress fairly low, I can function at a decent level but I’m never going to be climbing mountains ever again. I’m about 20 pounds overweight and would be perfectly happy with a woman who is around the same. I don’t really care about looks that much, never did.
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Agree that the 50 something ladies are alright. Sorry to be trite, but it is a numbers game and it takes effort. I think the good advice is that it starts with taking care of oneself in all the ways discussed above. It takes the willingness to be curious about the special things that make others who they are. – If you want to meet a man, you’ll have better luck meeting them if you do things that men enjoy that you also like to do.
Met a guy and we had a relationship for a while. We broke up cause it wasn’t going anywhere. We took a “Break” and well never got back together.
At 80 having had polio 76 years ago and lived normal life, raised 5 kids, had a wonderful husband that died 20 years ago. All kids married with children living all on their own with good jobs too. I walk with a crutch and have good health, drive my car around town but miss conversation. At this age most of my friends are gone too. In the meantime it would be nice too have someone to talk with instead of only the girls at Mcdonalds. I don’t think online dating is not good for senior citizens.
The problem is, women refuse to date decent guys. I have a 100% rejection rate from women. I have been fantasizing of having a date with a woman for 20 years now. I have been single most of my adult life. The last time I was with a woman, I was 38, I am now 58. Women in my life are pure fantasy.
There are many of young ladies that would milk an older man for all he is worth too.. Thanks so much for sharing such an honest and open comment — even posting a comment on a forum like this can be challenging, let alone trying online dating! I’m obviously a little biased but what you describe is exactly the sort of scenario that inspired us to create Stitch in the first place. “Dating” simply isn’t the solution for most people, which is why we’re trying to give people an opportunity to connect more naturally. Why don’t you create an account to check it out … you can take a look at the sort of discussions that our members are having, and why it helps them meet each other without that pressure of “dating”.
However, society places more restrictive age limits of 71 and 75 respectively. It seems nearly everyone, male or female, feels they deserve someone younger than themselves, meaning 50% are bound to be disappointed. 70 yr old sprightly,young and forward looking male. Lost my partner of 43 yrs.recently. I.m lonely,isolated and need male companion. THanks to my love for exercise in all forms I have managed to stay quite fit and my age has not restricted my activities of daily living.
